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STRESS = CHANGE. It’s as simple as that. We know that change is the only constant thing in life. Yet many of us have a hard time adjusting to it. We want things to be the way we like it. We can’t control what’s changing and that causes stress. Stress can lead to headaches, muscle pain, chest pain, irregular heart beat, high blood pressure, reproductive problems, affect work, relations etc.

How to over come stress? Instead of looking at the big picture, focus on micro actions. Some tips and tricks for stress management:-

1) Pause. Think. Do not fill in the blanks without having all facts.
As humans, we have this natural tendency to fill in or assume. For example: - My husband knew he would be late , he didn’t call me because…he doesn’t care etc. Instead get the facts. He might be busy, might have stopped to buy you flowers. Without having the facts do not fill in the blanks. Especially do not fill in the blanks with negative thoughts.

2) Stop living in the “world according to me”.
According to you, there is a set way of doing things or growing up or children’s behavior. Stop. Others don’t have to follow your ideas of life.

3) Ask good questions.
Why don’t they do something? Why don’t they control their kids? Why didn’t they call in advance? Sounds familiar… right? These questions result in nothing other than more aggravation. Instead think, is this really a crisis? If things are not done your way what will it affect? What will this question/decision accomplish? Ask yourself are you doing this to impress someone? What will happen if you do nothing? Are you doing this for the good of yourself or for “____________”.Find humor in a situation. Humor keeps the environment light.

4) Predict and protect. Know your weakness.
Everyone must like me. If I don’t do it, it won’t get done. Again these are some familiar statements. Next time you fall for the trap of filling in the blanks or controlling, know that they are your weak points and stop. When in an argument do not aim for the weak spots of the other person, it leads to nothing but more hurt and that person might know your spots and hurt you too. Instead argue right and protect each others weak spots.

5) Take a vacation.
Spend some quality time with your loved ones, take a vacation. When on this vacation do not multi-task, do not think of what you have to do at work or what’s to be done at home etc. Just enjoy the moment.

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This information is not a substitute for medical advice.Please consult with your doctor